That message is part of what has inspired Soroptimist International North Canterbury, in partnership with Violence Free North Canterbury and Waimakariri District Council, to install a memorial plaque for victims of domestic violence in Rangiora’s Good Street Laneway.

On Wednesday 25 November at 11am, residents are invited to stand together in honour of those affected by family violence and sexual violence, and to speak out against harm in our communities.

Waimakariri Mayor Dan Gordon and Hurunui Mayor Marie Black alongside Hon Matt Doocey will attend the event, and a plaque will be unveiled by Jennifer Davies from West Christchurch Women’s Refuge.

A tree will also be planted alongside the plaque, and attendees are encouraged to wear a white ribbon and bring a fresh flower to place at the unveiling site.

Waimakariri Mayor Dan Gordon says everyone has the right to live free from violence and abuse.

“This memorial plaque is a reminder of that fundamental right, and of the lives affected by family violence. It also acknowledges the importance of standing alongside victims and supporting the work being undertaken to prevent and respond to violence.

“Waimakariri District Council is a partner in the Violence Free North Canterbury Network, which brings agencies together to coordinate efforts, provide support and work towards a community free from violence and abuse. That work includes raising awareness, educating our communities and reinforcing the message that family violence is never acceptable.

“Awareness and education are important parts of creating change. I hope this memorial encourages people to reflect on the impact of violence, remember those who have lost their lives, and recognise that we all have a role to play in building a safer community, ” he says.

Soroptimist International North Canterbury President Heather Mather says the group wanted to take a more visible stand against violence and abuse in homes and communities, and hopes the occasion will bring about positive change through education, connection and support for victims.

“We know from research and the experience of victims of violence that positive signals create a sense that we live in a supportive community. There is also clear evidence that the way in which society demonstrates and responds to victims of violence has a significant impact on reporting and recovery.

“Having the support of Mayors Dan Gordon and Marie Black, Members of Parliament and Police is very assuring, a positive endorsement and a clear indication that violence is unacceptable in North Canterbury,” Heather says.

The idea for a memorial event came about after Soroptimist North Canterbury member Anthea Penny attended a similar event in Sydney last year.

“Not only was it moving but it was also a powerful example of a community standing together against violence.”

Anthea, who is also President of Soroptimist International South East Asia Pacific, hopes people leave the event with the understanding that family violence is not a private matter or something communities should accept.

“We remember those affected, stand with survivors, and each have a role in creating safer homes and communities.”

Photo: White Ribbon Memorial Event organisers (from left) Heather Mather, Aleisha Black, Anthea Penny, Judith Manson, Jo Ealam, and Jennifer Davies.